2/12/07

What a stressful week. Where'd I leave off...oh yeah, the cops took him to the psych ward. The hospital called me and said that he was willingly admitting himself and that he wouldn't be there long. His mother went there the next day (Wednesday)....he called numerous times during the day...then said he was getting out that day. From what I've found out, his release was conditional upon him making appointments with a therapist, which he has. I believe that if he misses the appointments, they will put him back in the hospital. His first appointment is scheduled for today.

Then, on top of that, the OW has filed charges against him. Thursday the cops called here and said there was a warrant for his arrest and he had to turn himself in, which he did that afternoon. She got a restraining order against him and there's 2 different charges, stalking and harassment, I believe. Fine mess he's got himself into.

Over the weekend, he had his usual bar gigs, including one here in our town Saturday night. He asked me to go with him. I had asked his mother to watch the girls so I could have some time off and was going to stay at my sisters, but decided to come back because his request was odd. So, I went with him. Some other friends of his were there as well. When we got home, he thanked me profusely for going with him - telling me he really needed me with him. (Not sure why, he was working and we didn't really hang out or anything)..but then he started opening a little to me. Some info about OW, then he showed me an email from the ex-girlfriend (from before me) that says while although she's married, she thinks of him often and "what if" she hadn't gotten married. Jeeze Louise, more fuel on the fire.

I know SO's problems are a lot more than "simply" OW...it's a complicated mess of financial issues, mental issues; health issues; kids,, family, work; me...etc. This isn't just about "her" - although right now his mind is manifested on that "one" thing and blowing it up out of proportion and it's what he's fixated on. It's the way his mind works - it doesn't matter what his "real" feelings are - it's more that she told him "no" and now his mind focuses on that. I hope I explained that the right way.

The talk we had was a very good one, I felt. He opened up a lot about a lot of things. I'm trying to just be a friend right now....sometimes I really can DETACH from it all, put my personal feelings aside and try to be a good friend because this is about HIM right now and not our relationship or it's outcome. Well, I guess in a way, that's part of it, but, it's not the crisis point right now. Getting him help is the first objective. It's hard, you can lead the horse to water, but you can't make him drink. My hope is that he's honest with the therapist and not just going to coast through this because it's "required" to keep him out of the hospital.

And, honestly, it does take it's toll on me. I was real worried about him yesterday. He was very, well, lethargic is the best word I can think of. It probably has a lot to do with the pills he's on, but, I have to wonder if being THAT sedated is a good thing.

One day at a time.